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20th Dec 2016

This Newly Married Couple Emailed One Of Their Wedding Guests To Ask For A Bigger Cash Gift


Can you imagine the mortification?

After attending the wedding of a former colleague, this guest was surprised to receive an email ‘politely’ stating that her gift – of £100 sterling – wasn’t quite enough. And if she wouldn’t mind sticking on a few quid extra, well, that’d be just lovely.

The shocked guest posted on Mumsnet asking for advice as to what she should do – though, to her credit, she didn’t include ‘give them more money’ among the options.



In case you can’t see the image, it reads:

I recently attended an ex-colleague’s wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can’t help feeling it shouldn’t)

Last night I received an email which opened with a few comments about how glad they were to see everybody and how generous they’d all been, then said “we were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received” 

For someone who’s not easily shocked I confess I’m utterly gobsmacked by this. So as not to drip feed I’ll mention that “your own position” probably refers to a recent inheritance I’ve had, which maybe they expected something from (and this is an ex-colleague, remember, not a close friend or relative)

Please, anyone, what do I do now? I’ve never come across anything like this before and still can’t quite believe they’ve done it – but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??

So… what would you do?